So since I'm on the sick and shut-in list, going on 3 weeks now, I obviously have a lot of time to do a bunch of nothing. I had started blogging previously and gave up on it for whatever reason, but I digress....Youtube is an integral part of my life daily, I live for the videos from the people I am subscribed to! So today I happened to run across videos about "Why mean are afraid to date BBW's".... Um ok yeah, why should there be a fear? Being a BBW myself, I watched several videos to hear the answers from both a male and female perspective, and this is what I got from it... Men's Perspective: 1. Men are scared of getting made fun of by their peers b/c they are being seen out in public with a woman of size. 2. Personal preference to just date skinny women. 3. Fear of too much work in the bedroom (wtf) 4. Just disgusted by women being "overweight" Female's Perspective: 1. Men are immature 2. Personal preference 3. Men think bigger women are sloppy and do not carry themselves correctly I'm sure there are more that I missed, but you get the general idea..So the point of this blog is, why do you think men are afraid to date BBWs? Here's my take ---- I think it's a mixture of all of the above...I don't know if it's a fear because some men do love bigger women, I think it has to do more with some men are afraid to be seen in public with a bigger woman because society has drilled in our heads that thin is in. It's not fair it's not right, but it's just the way it is.... How many of us have heard "you're pretty....for a big girl"? That statement is so ridiculous...It seems like having a few extra pounds is equivalent to being "ugly" when that is not the case. I think men just see women for their physical sometimes only to find themselves in a situation later on down the road where they are with their "trophy chick" who has the worst personality or nothing going for her but the fact that she might be built like a brickhouse.. After viewing these videos it gave me a better outlook on being a bigger girl. Yeah I might be big, and a guy might not like my physical appearance, and that is okay and that just means that is not the guy for me.. There are jokes that big girls are good for cooking, eating, and keeping warm, etc...now all that may be true, lol...but big girls have more to offer than that, so if you are one of the guys that "fear" being with a big girl, reevaluate the situation, cuz that big girl, just might change your life.......
So here is my question to add to this. What happens when a man falls in love w/ a woman who is skinny, has his children, and has trouble losing the baby weight? Now she is a big girl but no different than the woman her married and had kids w/. Will that man still love her the same assuming that he wouldn't date BBW before he found this skinny woman? Something to ponder.
ReplyDeleteWell, that's a good question...A lot of people will say that they want you to "keep yourself up" and not let yourself go. Now I understand a woman's body can change, and that can be either a good thing or a bad thing, since beauty is in the eye of the beholder. In that situation the man should maybe workout with her or diet with her, or simply accept her for what she is...OR...there is a possibility he may cheat on her or leave her for someone who is skinny, if that's his preference...that's just my take on it..
ReplyDeleteThe ones talkin ish about big girls are the ones that have issues within themselves..so f em. u know.. The Game episode with Malik dating that big reporter? He was ashamed to be seen with her in public..then when he started catching feelings..he was ready to change..but it was too late.. mofos miss out on their blessings being weight picky. the end.
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