This blog is inspired by yet another youtuber who is the greatest..He is young and appeals to the younger audience but brings a POWERFUL message to everyone!!! So the youtuber's name is Pastor Justin, a black male, who is known for creating P4CM, which is Passion For Christ Movement based out of California...He gave 5 reasons why he would NOT marry a white girl..Here's the reasons..
1. She can't cook fried chicken
2. Scared of her being "overly-white" ... ie: doesn't speak any slang
OR
Scared of her being "overly-hood" ... ie: speaking too much slang
3. Persecution fears --- ie: black females judging and talking about the interracial relationship
4. Kids -- ie: not being able to name kids a black name (an African black name)
5. Racist -- ie: being a low-key closet racist
Now all of these reasons sound crazy, right?
He did a video to point out that there are just stupid reasons to NOT marry a person of a different race...Seriously, who cares who you marry or date, as long as you are happy right? Now some people say from a religious sense that it's not "good" to mix races, but my stance is, we are not going to be judged by our skin color when we die, right?
So would you date outside of your race? Why? Why not?
Here is my answer...
I would date or marry outside of my race if it is person that God has called for me. My personal preference though is to date or marry an African American man, but if that is not meant to be, then I'm open to someone else. I believe that we block our blessings by not being open enough to things...
Check the video if you would like to receive a strong message!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvyAKlFo21M
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
What would you do?
So over the weekend I had a deep conversation with two friends on a topic that revolved around saying that "you don't know what you would do unless you are in that situation"......
I've been told by some people that I can't speak on some topics dealing with parenting, certain job professions, or relationships simply because they assume I don't know what I'm talking about. I think that everyone has a point of view and an idea whether they are in the specific situation or not..My thing is, don't sit here and ask a question about something, and then have a rebuttal for my response, right?
Anyways, can we really assume what we would do in a situation before the situation occurs, or do we really have to be in the situation before we would act upon it? I know that all probably sounds like a long complicated question, so I shall provide an example...and for those who know me personally will know how I feel.....
Example: You are married to your spouse of 10 years, have 2 kids, and you are madly in love with your mate, and have no complaints (sounds good, right?). Anyways----your mate is involved in a freak accident and loses an arm and a leg, and part of their face suffers 3rd degree burns....Now you said for better or for worse when you recited your vows, do you leave the person or do you stay because of love? Now keep in mind that your spouse's life is changed FOREVER...This is going to affect their physical appearance, self esteem, confidence..etc..... Can you handle that? Will you stay? Can you make that assessment now, or do you have to wait?
Now I realize that my scenario sounds a bit drastic, but it is all so realistic, and can happen to anybody. A "good" person would say that they would stay for whatever reasons, but is a person "bad" if they say they can't handle it and would have to leave?
I know what my answer would be.......BUT....Just wanted to give some food for thought about whether you can premeditate your decisions or not...
I've been told by some people that I can't speak on some topics dealing with parenting, certain job professions, or relationships simply because they assume I don't know what I'm talking about. I think that everyone has a point of view and an idea whether they are in the specific situation or not..My thing is, don't sit here and ask a question about something, and then have a rebuttal for my response, right?
Anyways, can we really assume what we would do in a situation before the situation occurs, or do we really have to be in the situation before we would act upon it? I know that all probably sounds like a long complicated question, so I shall provide an example...and for those who know me personally will know how I feel.....
Example: You are married to your spouse of 10 years, have 2 kids, and you are madly in love with your mate, and have no complaints (sounds good, right?). Anyways----your mate is involved in a freak accident and loses an arm and a leg, and part of their face suffers 3rd degree burns....Now you said for better or for worse when you recited your vows, do you leave the person or do you stay because of love? Now keep in mind that your spouse's life is changed FOREVER...This is going to affect their physical appearance, self esteem, confidence..etc..... Can you handle that? Will you stay? Can you make that assessment now, or do you have to wait?
Now I realize that my scenario sounds a bit drastic, but it is all so realistic, and can happen to anybody. A "good" person would say that they would stay for whatever reasons, but is a person "bad" if they say they can't handle it and would have to leave?
I know what my answer would be.......BUT....Just wanted to give some food for thought about whether you can premeditate your decisions or not...
Monday, October 11, 2010
Fear of BBWs?!?!
So since I'm on the sick and shut-in list, going on 3 weeks now, I obviously have a lot of time to do a bunch of nothing. I had started blogging previously and gave up on it for whatever reason, but I digress....Youtube is an integral part of my life daily, I live for the videos from the people I am subscribed to! So today I happened to run across videos about "Why mean are afraid to date BBW's".... Um ok yeah, why should there be a fear? Being a BBW myself, I watched several videos to hear the answers from both a male and female perspective, and this is what I got from it... Men's Perspective: 1. Men are scared of getting made fun of by their peers b/c they are being seen out in public with a woman of size. 2. Personal preference to just date skinny women. 3. Fear of too much work in the bedroom (wtf) 4. Just disgusted by women being "overweight" Female's Perspective: 1. Men are immature 2. Personal preference 3. Men think bigger women are sloppy and do not carry themselves correctly I'm sure there are more that I missed, but you get the general idea..So the point of this blog is, why do you think men are afraid to date BBWs? Here's my take ---- I think it's a mixture of all of the above...I don't know if it's a fear because some men do love bigger women, I think it has to do more with some men are afraid to be seen in public with a bigger woman because society has drilled in our heads that thin is in. It's not fair it's not right, but it's just the way it is.... How many of us have heard "you're pretty....for a big girl"? That statement is so ridiculous...It seems like having a few extra pounds is equivalent to being "ugly" when that is not the case. I think men just see women for their physical sometimes only to find themselves in a situation later on down the road where they are with their "trophy chick" who has the worst personality or nothing going for her but the fact that she might be built like a brickhouse.. After viewing these videos it gave me a better outlook on being a bigger girl. Yeah I might be big, and a guy might not like my physical appearance, and that is okay and that just means that is not the guy for me.. There are jokes that big girls are good for cooking, eating, and keeping warm, etc...now all that may be true, lol...but big girls have more to offer than that, so if you are one of the guys that "fear" being with a big girl, reevaluate the situation, cuz that big girl, just might change your life.......
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